Coming out?!?!

It is hard to come out. Some people wonder do they really have to come out. Coming out is different for each person. Some people are not scared to come out while other are. It is scary to face the world. You may lose friends and family. Your own parents may disown you. You might get into fights for no reasons other than being gay. You might not get the job you wanted or the promotion you know that you deserved. You probably are not welcome into the church that you went to. You probably feel forced to be non-religious. You will probably be called names that might even make you cry. Some Heterosexual men will probably stay far away from you. Can you handle this pressure? Are you ready for it? Only you can answer that but you WILL be able to one day. If you noticed I said a lot of "mights" and "probably" the truth is that while you might face this, it is not definite. Your family and friends might accept you and even become closer to you. Your boss might not care that you are Homosexual. Those guys who believes that every gay man wants to be with them are just confused. You will find straight friends. Those friends who deny you because of your sexuality are just confused. You will find new friends. This is why I also recommend telling your friends with in the first week of meeting them once you come out. You must ONLY come out when you are ready and when you know that you can handle the pressure. I have always said that the world will be more accepting of Homosexuals one day. They will understand that this is who we are. We can't stop loving who we love. It is impossible to just stop, it would just be us pretending to make others happy. So the answer to many people question is no. You do not have to come out. Some people can just tell without you saying anything. Yet I believe that you should tell a few people if not everyone that you meet. Coming out is more than just being afraid of how others might react. Why? You will never know how they WILL react. When I came out to my best friends it was because I was afraid that others will learn I was gay and my best friends will hear it from someone else. I knew I had to tell them first that way they can get use to the idea, and make up there minds whether they wanted to be friends with me or not...without the pressure of others. They chose to be remain friends with me. Coming out is about accepting yourself and being proud of who you are. There is no turning back from coming out. This is the good thing about it. If you get scared or stressed once you are out you have no choice but to take a deep breath and continue the fight for what is right. It is hard for many people to accept being Homosexual or Bisexual so they stay hidden. Coming out makes you braver. When you have friends Homosexual or Heterosexual it gives you a boost knowing that they will always be there for you. Usually other secrets seems stupid once the ones that you love accepts you for being you. You may feel like you can tell them anything. So take a deep breath. You only have one life to live and you do not know how long you have to live it. I am not forcing you to come out but when you do make sure you are really ready. There is no point of ending your life over ANYTHING. Many people in the world have learned to accept different sexualities and many more will soon one day. You just did not meet them yet...you may even be surprised once you learn who they are. I know I was.